Bit-of-Joy #20

Don’t be afraid to trust and go where your joy takes you. – Anita Moorjani

This idea can be frightening. Just trust. It conjures up images of the old ‘trust falls’ popular during high school retreats in the 1970s. One person stands behind the other and expects the person in front to simply fall back into their arms — ‘trust me’.

But life isn’t a trust fall that would simply result in a bruised tailbone if it fails.

While we’ve all heard stories of those who made the incredible decision to walk away from a corporate job to follow their dreams – and made millions, for every millionaire, how many have experienced chaos and financial failure? I’m certainly all for walking away from toxic or dangerous situations, don’t get me wrong.

But ‘going where your joy takes you’ doesn’t mean you need to abandon all life structures and instantaneously jump all in to ‘find your bliss, the rest of you be damned.’ Sometimes going where joy takes you can mean taking steps towards your dreams, making plans, taking precautionary measures and moving slowly towards your goals.

You must trust yourself to know which method will work for you.

The important words, in my opinion, in Anita Moorjani’s quote is ‘don’t be afraid’. Making decisions rooted in fear often leads to pain and sorrow. Operating from fear keeps us from listening to our own – or others’ – wisdom.

GO — quickly – or slowly – or in starts and stops — just be not afraid.

Can you share a time when your method of ‘going where your joy takes you’ led you in the wrong direction and you had to make a U-turn?

6 comments

  1. Yup. I jumped too hastily into starting my own publishing company, believing erroneously that the joy I experienced in writing and designing would extend to all of the tasks involved in running your own small business. Two years of that proved to be the final straw pushing me into burnout and I had to make a U-turn by wrapping up the company against the advice of accountant who thought that, if I just held on for a year or two, I could make it successful.

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    • Karen – you took your small business ownership much further than I did — but good for you recognizing that despite the ‘promise’ of success in a few years — this wasn’t for you! I spent a year and a few thousand dollars dabbling in a few business ideas when I realized coaching/consulting was best for me because all the other ideas required me BEING a boss – NO thank you!

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  2. I love to learn and when my kids were babies, I wanted to go back to school in the evenings to pursue a business education. I wanted it so bad I thought I could make it work, despite working full-time and having 2 kids under 3, and a non-supportive spouse. I know, right? Insanity. It took a month of classes and the professor coming on to me for me to realize this wasn’t the right time or place for me, in this class. So I dropped out. I finally did get that business education, over 20 years later. I received my MBA in 2016.

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    • Oh my — 2 kids under 3, full-time job and school! Are you a glutton for punishment? Good that you knew when to make a U-turn before too much damage (physical, emotional, spiritual) was done. And congrats on finishing the MBA!

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  3. Janet, I have recently gone where my joy took me. I had been working in a field that I didn’t love anymore, for 15 years. I had tried moving across the country and living on a boat, while working in the same field, hoping that would bring back some of the lost joy. It did not. This past year, finally, things got so intolerable that I had to leave in order to save my own sanity–maybe even to save my own life. I didn’t spend a lot of time planning it. I just looked at the calendar, saw that I had exactly 12 weeks left of the school year, printed out the FMLA paperwork, and told my husband that night, that the next day was going to be my last day of work.

    That was March 1, and there have definitely been road blocks along the way. My pay ended up being completely docked for a month and a half, and two of my final 3 paychecks will be partially docked. This was not entirely anticipated. We’ve had to cut back, and we’ve had to ask for assistance. But do I regret my choice? No. Am I making a U-turn? Absolutely not. The time off has given me an opportunity to find myself and reconnect to my passion–writing. I’ve rediscovered my voice, and I plan to work part time once my paychecks stop for good. Working part time will allow me to pay the bills and focus on my writing.

    No matter what, I think the leap of faith is always worth taking. Falling flat on your face just leaves a bruise that will heal. It does not matter that much in the long run.

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    • Bethany – I am so delighted that you are following your joy! Thank you for sharing your story so openly and honestly. I love your line – ‘just leaves a bruise that will heal’! And believe me, I understand how sometimes it is necessary to jump ship with no plan and no preparation. I’ve done this at least 2 times voluntarily and 2 times non-voluntarily in my life. I’m just getting to the point where I am trying to make plans. Thanks for joining the conversation….

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